Cancelled Coffee

A girl complained that a man arranged to meet her for coffee and then cancelled.

My view is that if all he had offered her was coffee he was not that interested. Especially on a first date.

Inviting a woman for coffee just to have a look - there's a hig chance that one party will walk out. They are not that committed.

But she had been seeing him for a fortnight and he could not afford dinner every night.

Did he regard meeting his male friends as more important than with her?

Most advisers would say she should make it clear she does not like having her evenings cancelled.

But what if he is unwilling to commit. Because he has another tentative arrangement and doesn't want to risk disappointing her?

If he tells her this from the start, that he has a prior engagement which might fall through, and ask if she is willing to make a last mintue arrangement.

I think meeting for a coffee is always likely to be cancelled and should only be arranged at the last minute. If you book an evening for dinner or to see a film you have to book with the restaurant or film company and will lose your money or your ability to get them to accept bookings in future.

Dates are the same. Arrange to do something serious and you are more likely to take the whole arrangement seriously.