Always leave a room as you find it. Plump up the sofa cushions. Remove used cups, drink cans. Unlike the popular song, you should not leave behind cigarettes in the ash tray.
Wednesday, April 23, 2014
What is a gentleman?
Clothes and Appearance
A gentleman wears a tie (or cravat) with a shirt. He never wears jeans and tee-shirts on a first date. He does not show his chest in a restaurant. He does not have a beard, moustache, nor show chest hair in a restaurant. He is never bare-chested in a public place except on a beach. He does not have missing teeth.
Car
He cleans the car. he removes clutter and dead leaves from the footwell. He clears the passenger seat.
Restaurants
He does not eat in the street. He ensures that his companion has something to eat or drink every couple of hours. He warns if he has to finish a meal early and checks his companion has time for dessert and coffee and if necessary hurries the service.
He drinks water with wine so he does not get drunk nor have bad breath. He does not invite you out just for a coffee then describe the five course dinner he ate last night.
If he chats to the waiter he looks at his companion every second or third sentence to include her in the conversation.
Conversation
He does not talk only about himself and how wonderful he is all evening. He stops every third sentence to allow the other person to speak, agree, or ask questions.
Toilets
Do not leave the toilet seat up. Especially not when visiting a lady. The next man to arrive, her husband, father, son, neighbour, worker, mother, daughter, sister, brother, colleague, boss, employee, male or female, will raise the eyebrows and wonder, 'Who has she been entertaining.'
A gentleman wears a tie (or cravat) with a shirt. He never wears jeans and tee-shirts on a first date. He does not show his chest in a restaurant. He does not have a beard, moustache, nor show chest hair in a restaurant. He is never bare-chested in a public place except on a beach. He does not have missing teeth.
Car
He cleans the car. he removes clutter and dead leaves from the footwell. He clears the passenger seat.
Restaurants
He does not eat in the street. He ensures that his companion has something to eat or drink every couple of hours. He warns if he has to finish a meal early and checks his companion has time for dessert and coffee and if necessary hurries the service.
He drinks water with wine so he does not get drunk nor have bad breath. He does not invite you out just for a coffee then describe the five course dinner he ate last night.
If he chats to the waiter he looks at his companion every second or third sentence to include her in the conversation.
Conversation
He does not talk only about himself and how wonderful he is all evening. He stops every third sentence to allow the other person to speak, agree, or ask questions.
Toilets
Do not leave the toilet seat up. Especially not when visiting a lady. The next man to arrive, her husband, father, son, neighbour, worker, mother, daughter, sister, brother, colleague, boss, employee, male or female, will raise the eyebrows and wonder, 'Who has she been entertaining.'
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
How to choose, court, meet a girl on a dating site
1 First choose the right girl.
A photo shows how pretty she is.
Her profile shows how interesting she is.
2 Is it worthwhile to follow up if no answers?
Yes, she might have been overseas, working, still seeing somebody old, seeing somebody new which didn't work out, or mislaid your initial note but doesn't like to admit it.
But reply positively. remembered her. Suggest positive results. Might still like to drop me a line, maybe meet.
3 Check her location? Is the destination suitable for her?
Don't travel to a far destination to meet her and then find she lives round the corner to you and you could have saved both the travel.
4 Follow up with how much you enjoyed meeting her. If she was OK but not special enough, would suit somebody but not you, admit it but keep her in your circle. You've already agreed not to meet again, suggest you have a friend she might like, and maybe she has a friend you might like. Arrange a foursome in which you meet one of her friends and she meets one of yours. At least you know who might like her. And vice versa.
Keep her on your list for a Xmas party, housewarming, game of bridge, dinner party, club outing, pub get together, reunion, whatever. Get all your friends who do dating to invite back the people they met in the area.
A photo shows how pretty she is.
Her profile shows how interesting she is.
2 Is it worthwhile to follow up if no answers?
Yes, she might have been overseas, working, still seeing somebody old, seeing somebody new which didn't work out, or mislaid your initial note but doesn't like to admit it.
But reply positively. remembered her. Suggest positive results. Might still like to drop me a line, maybe meet.
3 Check her location? Is the destination suitable for her?
Don't travel to a far destination to meet her and then find she lives round the corner to you and you could have saved both the travel.
4 Follow up with how much you enjoyed meeting her. If she was OK but not special enough, would suit somebody but not you, admit it but keep her in your circle. You've already agreed not to meet again, suggest you have a friend she might like, and maybe she has a friend you might like. Arrange a foursome in which you meet one of her friends and she meets one of yours. At least you know who might like her. And vice versa.
Keep her on your list for a Xmas party, housewarming, game of bridge, dinner party, club outing, pub get together, reunion, whatever. Get all your friends who do dating to invite back the people they met in the area.
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