I have a fantasy involving a school. But I ran into a problem with a man who experienced something similar in real life. Unfortunately my fantasy simply reminds him of an unpleasant and in his words 'violent' experience.
He does not enjoy the image of the people or place involved. The memories evoked are a distraction from an erotic image or conversation.
So how can I adapt my fantasy to suit him?
Changed Fantasy
I've thought of a few ideas. A runaway caught on train. Summerhouse in woods.
I also have my limits. Anything too violent or dangerous or involving too much in the way of restraint evokes images of sickness and misery and real life danger, whether medieval or modern.
That sends me into flight mode. I don't stay in a story about submitting to a superior being. I'm imagining a scene about a prisoner trying to escape. I'm into 'How do I get out of here? Away from this person?'
Or I'm moved into nurse mode - planning taking precautions like a health and safety inspector. Or protective mother role, like I would be with my children, or a younger gay person going out to a bar: 'Be careful dear. Mind how your cross the road. Don't let any stranger hurt you or imprison you.'
A fantasy or role play involving certain images won't turn me on. To me it is boring. Not erotic.
Everyday Distraction
And using my household equipment such as dining chairs, dining tables and sofas doesn't appeal to me either. With a dining chair I would be totally distracted by worries about breaking the chair. Or falling and hurting myself.
With a living room chair I'd be concerned about spoiling the upholstery with body fluids. And damaging the furniture's fabric and wood or leather with a cane.
Even thinking about it now, you see, my mind is wandering off the erotic fantasy into this practical distraction.
Your Responsibility
Have you had a problem where your fantasy evoked the wrong images for the other person?
That's why I never feel that the 'you must do anything I say' scenario would ever work for me. I do not feel it is fair to say that to any partner, even and especially when dealing with a submissive.
Limits
How do you get a person to go along with an erotic conversation, meeting or relationship? A scene has to be fun for both parties.
When dealing with a stranger, you don't know their limits. Everybody has things they don't enjoy. If you meet a barrier in their brain, first you have to find the elements they don't like and remove them.
Then find the elements they do like. Move the elements and the listener into a new scenario. For variety. Or surprise.
Surely what you want outside a scene is for the other person in real life to smile whenever they see you?
Depression
You don't want the other person to be depressed or even suicidal. A woman who is severely submissive and keen to do anything you want might have serious abuse in her history or have been raped and you risk triggering off alarm bells.
One of my readers says in his profile that he is on anti-depressants. He also says he wants role play as a catharsis. I start trying to analyze what makes him tick. The solution to his problems in one scene, and the whole of his life.
Sometimes the onlooker sees most of the game. The dominant or in charge partner may have to be like a real life doctor or headmaster, looking after the psychology of the person in their care.
Controlling, caring, healing
Your mind and hands can heal.
Programming
You must also ask yourself how you are programming the other person. If you are with another person 24/7 you could persuade them to never act in the same way with anybody else.
But if you are persuading a person to do anything you say, you are exposing them to danger when they deal with other people from this site and in the outside world.
You could be healing them. Sending them out confident and happy.
Teamwork and Adapting
Especially when dealing with switches and submissives, you have to be able to come out of a scene. That includes when it simply isn't working for the other person.
Looking at what I've written, so far I've been too negative. Maybe I just need a glass of water. Perhaps I need to use positive words.
I have to work on myself the writer. Also on the reader. First please myself, re-reading what I've written and feeling good about it. Then making you happy and confident.
This is the trick. To look for all the things which are good. Fun. Things which make the other person say, 'Hm - that sounds fun!'
Which implements or toys excite them? Where were their worst and best experiences? The most erotic? What have they not tried? What would they like to try?
Profile Clues
It's all there in the profile. So all I need to do is read the profile, and put their favourite elements into a fantasy. It's so simple, I can't think why I've never tried that before.
But do they really want those listed elements in a whispered fantasy? Oddly enough, I've read lots of profiles in which people say that their fantasies are waterfalls and alleyways but I've never had a phone fantasy about these.
Maybe it's because I stop anybody with a sordid scenario.
Why haven't I met enough romantics for waterfall fantasies? Or are there not enough people who have actually had romantic encounters at waterfalls?
People honeymoon at Niagara. But mostly you are fully clothed or even in protective clothing, surrounded by crowds of people, being moved on by others with cameras.
Control in Conversation
If you don't have the profile fantasy in front of you on the computer screen when you talk on the phone, or read it before going to a meeting, or written up on a card index card you can read at home, or on the train, then what?
Just ask. Who, what, when, where and why. Who are the two characters? 'What are your favourite props?' What is he wearing? What is she wearing? Is it the past or present or future? Should I outline the story passively, or actively? Shall I describe it or act it out? Reported speech or direct speech?
Creating and adapting a fantasy is a test of your control over your life, life in general, their life, their fantasy, their relationship with you.
Your Fun Feedback and Clever Comments
You may have seen plays in which a woman's visiting lover turns out to be her husband. Or the master and servant swap roles. Or the judge and prisoner. Or the queen and the prostitute. The man and the woman. The husband and wife.
So, over to you. Any comments how to adapt my original scene? Or problems you've had? Did you resolve them? Had any good or bad or changed fantasies for phone sex? And whispered stories for mutual exctiement? And acting out fantasies in role play when together?
Friday, December 21, 2007
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Cancelled Coffee
A girl complained that a man arranged to meet her for coffee and then cancelled.
My view is that if all he had offered her was coffee he was not that interested. Especially on a first date.
Inviting a woman for coffee just to have a look - there's a hig chance that one party will walk out. They are not that committed.
But she had been seeing him for a fortnight and he could not afford dinner every night.
Did he regard meeting his male friends as more important than with her?
Most advisers would say she should make it clear she does not like having her evenings cancelled.
But what if he is unwilling to commit. Because he has another tentative arrangement and doesn't want to risk disappointing her?
If he tells her this from the start, that he has a prior engagement which might fall through, and ask if she is willing to make a last mintue arrangement.
I think meeting for a coffee is always likely to be cancelled and should only be arranged at the last minute. If you book an evening for dinner or to see a film you have to book with the restaurant or film company and will lose your money or your ability to get them to accept bookings in future.
Dates are the same. Arrange to do something serious and you are more likely to take the whole arrangement seriously.
My view is that if all he had offered her was coffee he was not that interested. Especially on a first date.
Inviting a woman for coffee just to have a look - there's a hig chance that one party will walk out. They are not that committed.
But she had been seeing him for a fortnight and he could not afford dinner every night.
Did he regard meeting his male friends as more important than with her?
Most advisers would say she should make it clear she does not like having her evenings cancelled.
But what if he is unwilling to commit. Because he has another tentative arrangement and doesn't want to risk disappointing her?
If he tells her this from the start, that he has a prior engagement which might fall through, and ask if she is willing to make a last mintue arrangement.
I think meeting for a coffee is always likely to be cancelled and should only be arranged at the last minute. If you book an evening for dinner or to see a film you have to book with the restaurant or film company and will lose your money or your ability to get them to accept bookings in future.
Dates are the same. Arrange to do something serious and you are more likely to take the whole arrangement seriously.
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Thinking Positively About Daily Troubles
Thinking Positively About Daily Troubles
I've read two blogs by somebody else and enjoyed them and here is my two cents worth. One email complains that he will never get together with a long-distance emailing lady, then the next complains about a series of work-related problems, starting with a flat battery, and his being cross becase mother his mother says I warned you to get a service - I told you so.
First he is sighing because he has a great email relationship with somebody who lives too far away.
1 A really good emailing relationship is a treasure. Much better than one liners, insults, people you don't have anything in common with. You've found a soulmate. Lovely.
2 If you met too soon, you might lose that.
3 To be sure you like the look of each other you need to go on cam and speak.
You should be looking nearer home for something long-term.
Now, his second blog. He's had a bad day. This is where his email lady comes in. She's his confidante. I told him:
She's your support for when you've had a hard day. Unlike your mother, your email friend doesn't need to get so anxious because she's not too close, physically or mentally. And that's partly why you like her, because she's calm and supportive.
Regarding his mother, I have to say she was right, that a stitch in time saves nine. Getting a car or truck serviced is not superstition, it's common sense. If you have a mother who cares. That's lovely.
Some people like me don't have a mother. Mine died.
Just hold onto that thought. There are irritations in life and there are tragedies. Enjoy life and think of the irritations as learning experiences. Don't look at the minuses, look at the pluses.
They say that if you want a friend you have to be a friend. If a man is missing a long term partner, maybe he has to think about committing, or being the strong, confident, happy person who a woman feels she can rely on to support her through life's troubles.
And instead of getting angry at mother, he should have told her how much he appreciates her advice, and how he should have listened to her because she is always right.
Poor mother. She tried to help him. All he did was get irritated. She cares for him.
I don't even know him and I care for him and his mother. I'm looking at his life and mine and thinking what lessons I can learn.
I know what I want most from life. A man who is calm and supportive in one's daily troubles. Can I be the same for him? I will try.
I've read two blogs by somebody else and enjoyed them and here is my two cents worth. One email complains that he will never get together with a long-distance emailing lady, then the next complains about a series of work-related problems, starting with a flat battery, and his being cross becase mother his mother says I warned you to get a service - I told you so.
First he is sighing because he has a great email relationship with somebody who lives too far away.
1 A really good emailing relationship is a treasure. Much better than one liners, insults, people you don't have anything in common with. You've found a soulmate. Lovely.
2 If you met too soon, you might lose that.
3 To be sure you like the look of each other you need to go on cam and speak.
You should be looking nearer home for something long-term.
Now, his second blog. He's had a bad day. This is where his email lady comes in. She's his confidante. I told him:
She's your support for when you've had a hard day. Unlike your mother, your email friend doesn't need to get so anxious because she's not too close, physically or mentally. And that's partly why you like her, because she's calm and supportive.
Regarding his mother, I have to say she was right, that a stitch in time saves nine. Getting a car or truck serviced is not superstition, it's common sense. If you have a mother who cares. That's lovely.
Some people like me don't have a mother. Mine died.
Just hold onto that thought. There are irritations in life and there are tragedies. Enjoy life and think of the irritations as learning experiences. Don't look at the minuses, look at the pluses.
They say that if you want a friend you have to be a friend. If a man is missing a long term partner, maybe he has to think about committing, or being the strong, confident, happy person who a woman feels she can rely on to support her through life's troubles.
And instead of getting angry at mother, he should have told her how much he appreciates her advice, and how he should have listened to her because she is always right.
Poor mother. She tried to help him. All he did was get irritated. She cares for him.
I don't even know him and I care for him and his mother. I'm looking at his life and mine and thinking what lessons I can learn.
I know what I want most from life. A man who is calm and supportive in one's daily troubles. Can I be the same for him? I will try.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
FLIRTING & NETWORKING
I looked at the newsletter of marketing adviser Ilse Benun.
She started a discuss on networking and flirting. Women had asked her how not to convey the impression that they were flirting.
She admitted that she flirted and that she did business more successfuly with men.
I looked at a picture of another person, Colleen. Her picture said flirting all over it.
1 First the sexy smile. Not quite face-on but coquettishly slightly sideways to imply 'chase me'.
2 The glasses slightly down the nose so the eyes are at the top.
3 The dimpled lines created by the self-conscious pursed lips.
4 The clincher is the open-neck shirt. For business you wear a buttoned up shirt. Opening it almost down to the bust is a come-on.
5 An open-neck shirt is also very friendly. It says I'm casual and easy-going, which combined with the smile ...
As Shakespeare said of Lady Macbeth: 'Methinks the lady doth protest too much.'
I also liked the tip about how to flirt. When you look at a man's wedding ring and ask, 'Do you have a girlfriend?' that's a leading question.
But if you ask if he has children that's more neutral.
I have the opposite problem. I want to get dates. How do I find the one available man at a conference and convey that I'm fascinated by his business because he's a successful man and I fancy him?
I want to hint that after this cocktail party ends, why doesn't he ask me out to dinner?
How do I tell him that I'm successful and solvent and want to go into business with him - and more?
As the song in the musical Avenue Q says: 'It's a fine, fine line.'
She started a discuss on networking and flirting. Women had asked her how not to convey the impression that they were flirting.
She admitted that she flirted and that she did business more successfuly with men.
I looked at a picture of another person, Colleen. Her picture said flirting all over it.
1 First the sexy smile. Not quite face-on but coquettishly slightly sideways to imply 'chase me'.
2 The glasses slightly down the nose so the eyes are at the top.
3 The dimpled lines created by the self-conscious pursed lips.
4 The clincher is the open-neck shirt. For business you wear a buttoned up shirt. Opening it almost down to the bust is a come-on.
5 An open-neck shirt is also very friendly. It says I'm casual and easy-going, which combined with the smile ...
As Shakespeare said of Lady Macbeth: 'Methinks the lady doth protest too much.'
I also liked the tip about how to flirt. When you look at a man's wedding ring and ask, 'Do you have a girlfriend?' that's a leading question.
But if you ask if he has children that's more neutral.
I have the opposite problem. I want to get dates. How do I find the one available man at a conference and convey that I'm fascinated by his business because he's a successful man and I fancy him?
I want to hint that after this cocktail party ends, why doesn't he ask me out to dinner?
How do I tell him that I'm successful and solvent and want to go into business with him - and more?
As the song in the musical Avenue Q says: 'It's a fine, fine line.'
Sunday, November 11, 2007
Better Safe Than Sorry - Lessons From Perugia
FASCINATION & INVOLVEMENT
Worldwide interest is on the dreadful murder in Italy of Meredith Kercher. Citizens of three or more countries are involved. A young student living overseas, who should have been having fun, and had all her life ahead of her, has lost her life. What can we learn from this?
WORRY
I keep telling myself to stop thinking and worrying about this. It's not my problem, only one of thousands of murders and deaths every day. It's not in my country. Nobody I know is involved. The situation is not one that I can change or help. There are not even any lessons to be learned. Or are there?
Why does this drama hold the attention of the rest of the world? Cautionary tale?
There but for the grace of god go I? Reminder of how much better off we are than we think we are when stressed out?
The mystery element makes you keep turning over the facts, as if by analyzing it, just one more time, you will be able to say that this must have happened or that must have happened. As if you could work out whether this person must have been guilty therefore another person must have been innocent, or maybe an accessory after he fact protecting a guilty party.
An unsettling element is questioning one's ability to judge character and predict events. As is so often the case, whether it's a massacre, a suicide bomber, or a single slaying, all the families come forward and say but my son or daughter must be innocent - they could not have done it.
So what do we conclude? That nobody can ever guess? That friends and family cannot tell?
So you cannot trust anybody, not even your family? Not your flatmate? Not your boyfriend or girlfriend? Not your spouse? Not your son or daughter?
PEER PRESSURE
Or should we reach another conclusion? Any young person can easily be persuaded that it's okay to kill themselves and somebody else?
DRUGS
Do drugs make you forget what you've done? People in court claim that drugs make them remember nothing about where they were, who they were with, or what happened. Under the influence you could not have attacked anybody else? Nor defended them!
ACCIDENTS
Many people in court under suspicion of murder claim that they committed manslaughter, not murder. They say that they only meant to frighten somebody, not to kill them. If that's true, our education system is at fault. We needed classes in both survival - meaning self-protection, plus self-restraint and safeguarding others.
Sometimes it looks like a genuine accident. But more often a bystander can see 'an accident waiting to happen', because people play with weapons or play fight.
DANGER
Excitement comes from the element of danger, of a power struggle, or the triumph of winning.
Elements of danger are normally present with any compression of the neck, and carrying or using knives and guns. Danger to yourself and others.
Being a victim is one danger. Being a witness is another danger.
Committing a crime and regretting it is one danger. Getting caught is another danger.
Being in the vicinity of somebody else and being accidentally mistakenly - or deliberately - blamed by police is another. Being blamed by somebody else trying to shift the blame from themselves to you is yet another danger.
We have a case in the UK of a boy playing with a gun who killed his sister. At least one person in the US has been killed by a gun which was loaded when the person holding it didn't realize or didn't know it would go off.
At least one case in the USA and another in England of people shooting themselves in the foot with their own gun.
Surely common sense and caution tells you to check a gun is loaded? And what about somebody holding a knife to somebody else's neck just to frighten them?
PRECAUTIONS
What precautions do you take? Do you lock your bedroom door at night, even when flatmates are about? Do you avoid people who are high on drugs? Do you take care not to play games with people who are drugged or drunk?
Should one avoid threesomes - the commonest fantasy of men and women, according to one survey.
Or should one just shrug? Usually after a well-publicized incident there are calls for changes in the law to prevent it happening again.
Insurance companies don't take a fatalistic attitude. They require you to set up locks and fire alarms and sprinklers.
Societies set up to prevent accidents at work and home and on the roads attempt to find causes and then prevent the events being repeated. In the UK we have had many knifings and now legislation has got tougher on the carrying of knives.
Airlines also don't allow any excuse. No knives. That's it. They stop you taking knives in your hand luggage or pockets.
Laws and rules have stopped youngsters from buying knives. And from taking them into school. What more can be done?
PS Looking at the news stories again two things stand out, drugs and consent. Drugs should not have been clouding common sense. Consent should have been obtained.
For safety:
1 Don't mix drugs and sex
2 All parties must consent at all times - this includes agreeing in advance and being allowed to change their minds if the situation changes and they are no longer
3 You have to care about somebody when you have sex with them or play any games.
4 They have to care about you, not just fancy having sex with you, care about you and your wellbeing. This means either caring about you specifically. You must allow time for this feeling to grow.
Or they must be the sort of person who cares about anybody and everybody. A nurturer. Again, you need time to know their personality.
Worldwide interest is on the dreadful murder in Italy of Meredith Kercher. Citizens of three or more countries are involved. A young student living overseas, who should have been having fun, and had all her life ahead of her, has lost her life. What can we learn from this?
WORRY
I keep telling myself to stop thinking and worrying about this. It's not my problem, only one of thousands of murders and deaths every day. It's not in my country. Nobody I know is involved. The situation is not one that I can change or help. There are not even any lessons to be learned. Or are there?
Why does this drama hold the attention of the rest of the world? Cautionary tale?
There but for the grace of god go I? Reminder of how much better off we are than we think we are when stressed out?
The mystery element makes you keep turning over the facts, as if by analyzing it, just one more time, you will be able to say that this must have happened or that must have happened. As if you could work out whether this person must have been guilty therefore another person must have been innocent, or maybe an accessory after he fact protecting a guilty party.
An unsettling element is questioning one's ability to judge character and predict events. As is so often the case, whether it's a massacre, a suicide bomber, or a single slaying, all the families come forward and say but my son or daughter must be innocent - they could not have done it.
So what do we conclude? That nobody can ever guess? That friends and family cannot tell?
So you cannot trust anybody, not even your family? Not your flatmate? Not your boyfriend or girlfriend? Not your spouse? Not your son or daughter?
PEER PRESSURE
Or should we reach another conclusion? Any young person can easily be persuaded that it's okay to kill themselves and somebody else?
DRUGS
Do drugs make you forget what you've done? People in court claim that drugs make them remember nothing about where they were, who they were with, or what happened. Under the influence you could not have attacked anybody else? Nor defended them!
ACCIDENTS
Many people in court under suspicion of murder claim that they committed manslaughter, not murder. They say that they only meant to frighten somebody, not to kill them. If that's true, our education system is at fault. We needed classes in both survival - meaning self-protection, plus self-restraint and safeguarding others.
Sometimes it looks like a genuine accident. But more often a bystander can see 'an accident waiting to happen', because people play with weapons or play fight.
DANGER
Excitement comes from the element of danger, of a power struggle, or the triumph of winning.
Elements of danger are normally present with any compression of the neck, and carrying or using knives and guns. Danger to yourself and others.
Being a victim is one danger. Being a witness is another danger.
Committing a crime and regretting it is one danger. Getting caught is another danger.
Being in the vicinity of somebody else and being accidentally mistakenly - or deliberately - blamed by police is another. Being blamed by somebody else trying to shift the blame from themselves to you is yet another danger.
We have a case in the UK of a boy playing with a gun who killed his sister. At least one person in the US has been killed by a gun which was loaded when the person holding it didn't realize or didn't know it would go off.
At least one case in the USA and another in England of people shooting themselves in the foot with their own gun.
Surely common sense and caution tells you to check a gun is loaded? And what about somebody holding a knife to somebody else's neck just to frighten them?
PRECAUTIONS
What precautions do you take? Do you lock your bedroom door at night, even when flatmates are about? Do you avoid people who are high on drugs? Do you take care not to play games with people who are drugged or drunk?
Should one avoid threesomes - the commonest fantasy of men and women, according to one survey.
Or should one just shrug? Usually after a well-publicized incident there are calls for changes in the law to prevent it happening again.
Insurance companies don't take a fatalistic attitude. They require you to set up locks and fire alarms and sprinklers.
Societies set up to prevent accidents at work and home and on the roads attempt to find causes and then prevent the events being repeated. In the UK we have had many knifings and now legislation has got tougher on the carrying of knives.
Airlines also don't allow any excuse. No knives. That's it. They stop you taking knives in your hand luggage or pockets.
Laws and rules have stopped youngsters from buying knives. And from taking them into school. What more can be done?
PS Looking at the news stories again two things stand out, drugs and consent. Drugs should not have been clouding common sense. Consent should have been obtained.
For safety:
1 Don't mix drugs and sex
2 All parties must consent at all times - this includes agreeing in advance and being allowed to change their minds if the situation changes and they are no longer
3 You have to care about somebody when you have sex with them or play any games.
4 They have to care about you, not just fancy having sex with you, care about you and your wellbeing. This means either caring about you specifically. You must allow time for this feeling to grow.
Or they must be the sort of person who cares about anybody and everybody. A nurturer. Again, you need time to know their personality.
Friday, August 31, 2007
How to Take a Face & Body Photo That's Nearly Nude but not crude
What does your photo say about you? What do you think of other people's photos? I'll start with those I pass over and end with my favourites, the funny nearly-nudes.
1 Escaped Prisoner
Glaring straight at camera. If he's out, I wish he'd go back. To get more positive results, pose again and this time add a smile.
2 Evasive
This person is avoiding the camera and looking at somebody else. Would you ever get their attention even if you were standing straight in front of them? I suggest taking another photo and smiling at the camera.
3 Nude Close-Up
If I wanted to be a nurse I would be out at work seeing the real thing. Gosh, pages of intimate photos. Totally un-memorable. Except for those which unnerve you. Like on the kitchen table. (What's that say about hygiene?)
What I want to see is a smiling face.
4 Funny Nearly Nude
Today I saw the best nearly nude photo. The guy is showing his face. And body. He is wearing only a long tie covering vital parts.
It makes you want to grab the tie and move it. Playing a game with the onlooker. Most enticing.
He has a sense of humour. He is discreet. But funny. He got my attention.
You can also hold a hat over your vital organs. Or a newspaper. Or a book. Or a piece of paper with a question mark on it. Or any piece of sporting equipment. Or stand behind a piece of furniture.
A classic way to display yourself without being crude is the beach shot, wearing a bathing costume. Again, action is best. Better than showing off your body. Action. Whether it's eating an ice cream, surfing, building sand-castles, caught mid-action putting up an umbrella, or carrying a deck chair or beach bag so that it looks as if you might be nude behind it. You can show that to mother. Yours. Or theirs.
So much better to see a face. And body. But know the other person is discreet.
Not playing power games. Not shy. Nor aggressive. Just fun.
1 Escaped Prisoner
Glaring straight at camera. If he's out, I wish he'd go back. To get more positive results, pose again and this time add a smile.
2 Evasive
This person is avoiding the camera and looking at somebody else. Would you ever get their attention even if you were standing straight in front of them? I suggest taking another photo and smiling at the camera.
3 Nude Close-Up
If I wanted to be a nurse I would be out at work seeing the real thing. Gosh, pages of intimate photos. Totally un-memorable. Except for those which unnerve you. Like on the kitchen table. (What's that say about hygiene?)
What I want to see is a smiling face.
4 Funny Nearly Nude
Today I saw the best nearly nude photo. The guy is showing his face. And body. He is wearing only a long tie covering vital parts.
It makes you want to grab the tie and move it. Playing a game with the onlooker. Most enticing.
He has a sense of humour. He is discreet. But funny. He got my attention.
You can also hold a hat over your vital organs. Or a newspaper. Or a book. Or a piece of paper with a question mark on it. Or any piece of sporting equipment. Or stand behind a piece of furniture.
A classic way to display yourself without being crude is the beach shot, wearing a bathing costume. Again, action is best. Better than showing off your body. Action. Whether it's eating an ice cream, surfing, building sand-castles, caught mid-action putting up an umbrella, or carrying a deck chair or beach bag so that it looks as if you might be nude behind it. You can show that to mother. Yours. Or theirs.
So much better to see a face. And body. But know the other person is discreet.
Not playing power games. Not shy. Nor aggressive. Just fun.
LITTLE WHITE LIES FOR LOVERS
CO-ORDINATE STORIES
A while ago, I was at a hotel on a first anniversary weekend away with my new husband. We could not understand why nobody would speak to us.
Then I got talking to a woman in the Ladies. Meanwhile, my husband had chatted to the other husband in the Gents.
My husband and met up again, both proud to tell what we had learned. She lived in City A and managed a dress shop. He lived in City B and was a rep.
Now we knew. They weren't married. Or, if they were, they were married to other people.
They were away on a 'dirty weekend'. They had tried to avoid speaking to us. But they hadn't co-ordinated their stories so we knew.
Plan and co-ordinate story line. You don't want to be telling your neighbour that Harry is your cousin from Ohio whilst Harry is telling your neighbour's husband that he is the plumber.:))
A while ago, I was at a hotel on a first anniversary weekend away with my new husband. We could not understand why nobody would speak to us.
Then I got talking to a woman in the Ladies. Meanwhile, my husband had chatted to the other husband in the Gents.
My husband and met up again, both proud to tell what we had learned. She lived in City A and managed a dress shop. He lived in City B and was a rep.
Now we knew. They weren't married. Or, if they were, they were married to other people.
They were away on a 'dirty weekend'. They had tried to avoid speaking to us. But they hadn't co-ordinated their stories so we knew.
Plan and co-ordinate story line. You don't want to be telling your neighbour that Harry is your cousin from Ohio whilst Harry is telling your neighbour's husband that he is the plumber.:))
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