Does the Daddy-Daughter Scenario Attract Or Repulse You? Why?
(First - why am I repeating the title? Because sometimes the second half gets wiped off by the system.)

For a long time I found the Daddy-Daughter scenario repulsive and could not explain why I did not like it nor understand why others did.

Now the answer seems so obvious that I cannot understand why I missed it earlier. Let me think this through to clarify it for myself, explain it to you, and get your feedback.

Who likes the Daddy-daughter scenario? Is it:
1) Re-enactment of childhood. But idealized. Wish fulfilment?
2) A version of the sub-dom scenario?
3) Or merely a version of the mating scenario?

Love and affection? Or control and punishment? Or a mixture?

Let's look at what happens in childhood. A little girl copies Mummy and expecting approval tells Mummy: 'I want to marry Daddy!'

(This is what happened to mother Mia Farrow and husband - don't get me started on this - whole bad scene.)

In my view, people who play Daddy and Daughter and Lil Girl and acting out this scene. We all use elements of this regression to the cosy, loving world of childhood. Lovers using baby talk.

(My sub dom fantasy goes back to this era, when adults were in control and sensation was strong, love, toilet training, pleasing adults, being punished or threatened with spankings. All control and love comes from a larger male figure. Dom.)

Mummy then politely explains that Daddy belongs to Mummy and toddler has to find a little boy her own age and marry him.

Here we get into the incest taboo. This is where I come in again. I am repulsed by this idea.

Especially as my father and mother lived long lives so I had years of adulthood with father as a taboo sexual figure who was allied with mother.

What's more, since my father died recently, any mention of fathers bring up unpleasant memories of bereavement. Any relationship involving a 'father', just using the word Dad or father, would involve distracting fantasies or side-tracking philosophizing about an angry mother and repulsive necrophilia.

But I am now able to understand why others follow the Dad-daughter idea.

For the woman it is cosy and reassuring. Daddy tucks her into bed at night. The role play or fantasy may end up sexual. Or it may stay at the platonic fantasy level with cuddles and total relaxation ending in sleep.

And on that happy note I shall leave you.

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