Warm Frank Extraverts And Cool Secretive Introverts
Cool people and warm people
Extraverts are often warm people. Warm people are happy to tell you all about themselves. They want to know all about you. They want to know, are you being honest with me. No secrets.
They happily tell you about their past relationships and current relationships. They think it’s okay to have lots of friends.
They feel that if you meet their friends they are safer, because the group always lets each member know what the others are doing.
They are joiners.
They love exchanging information.
They may want to know your age, and what you do in bed with other people.
At this point some warm, friendly people turn into cool people.
Introverts are often cool people.
Cool people are more cautious before they commit. They are suspicious of anybody who asks too many questions. They regard people who reveal too much as naïve and unreliable. They are suspicious of rivals, unreliable people from your past, your getting involved with anybody except them.
They don’t want to reveal their real name. They use their middle name or an alias or a nickname or a pen name or a business name. They don’t want to reveal their age. Their address. The shop where they buy their clothes. They don’t want to tell you the title of a reference book which reveals trade secrets or addresses or how to pass an exam.
HYBRIDS & FALSELY WARM
Some extraverts and warm people have invented a new ‘stage’ personality. They want to appear much more successful to get admiration and trust.
Or to seem much more of a victim. To get attention, sympathy and money.
Comics and comedians are jolly on stage, compensating for being frightened inside. So many clowns and comedians when they are out of work have lost the successful side which is bolstering them and giving them false confidence. Like Benny Hill, Hancock, and others, the clown out of work gets depressed or commits suicide. Manic depressive or slightly so – introvert and unfriendly off stage, in chat shows, when recognized by the public in the lift or a shop they turn unexpectedly aggressive.
They can’t maintain the funny, friendly person without the lines written by somebody else. They think their real self is being tracked, exposed. The funny on stage person, especially in drag, allows them to do things they would be afraid to do in real life because they think the frightening lurking parents or God in the Sky can’t see them. On stage behind a wig or play character or even in a poem or song they are somebody else. On stage they can be confident or even take revenge and commit murder. Then, without being blamed, or made to keep up the pretence, they can sink back into obscurity, un-noticed.
Let’s go back to the dating personality. The friend. The family member.
The introvert is afraid to speak.
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